In this episode Mark and Debbie talk more on the subject of dating, letting someone have veto power in who you date, why pre-marital sex is a problem, and the idea that you should be happy with yourself before getting married, not relying on marriage to make you happy.
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Duration : 0:28:36
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Duration : 0:1:21
Its long, sorry…
Some background information:
I’m 35, she’s 28. She has 3 kids that aren’t mine. We’ve been dating for 2 months… we broke up once for 2 days until i called her and we got back together… we both said we were miserable and couldn’t live without the other.
* we fell in love fast, too fast… less than a week.
* she’s already stated that she wants to marry me
* she thinks I’m perfect and ask me what’s the catch… she knows im not perfect but says perfect for her
* she is an ex stripper, dislikes her dad (issues there i know!) hates men? but loves me huh?
*she doesn’t work and stays up all night… i work full time construction and get up at 6 everyday… ive spent many sleepless nights catering to her needs
* she’s bi polar and also takes adderal. Her moods are insane and i really cannot handle the swings.
*basically i walk on eggshells for her because im an alpha male and any dominance out of me just ticks her off… she wants to be the boss (FRICTION)… i want a partnership
* i have given her all my heart, all my time, attention, she does not return the same… not even close
** the kicker here is she claims to be honest and that is her biggest quality… but she talks a good game and doesn’t back it up with action.
* she doesn’t cheat but she has like 2 ex husbands and a few ex boyfriends that she likes to hang on to… ya know in case she needs to call one up later if her current boyfriend don’t work out.
* she talks to an ex on facebook everyday which i find annoying because i don’t even talk to her everyday. he lied to her, so she wants nothing to do relationship-wise with him, but she’s still friends????
* she thinks we were meant to be, soulmates, she thinks we are the same person, we think alike.
*she so shifty and goes from wanting to marry me one day to not talking to me for the next 3 days and avoiding me
MY QUESTION IS…. WHY SHOULD I STAY WITH HER OR LEAVE HER ALL BECAUSE OF LOVE.?
.. SHE MAKES ME FEEL SO BAD ALMOST DAILY. SHE MAKES ME FEEL REALLY GOOD… BUT ALMOST NEVER.
I LOVE HER BUT I THINK AND ALL MY FRIENDS THINK I SHOULD LET HER GO. WHAT DO YOU THINK? IS IT POSSIBLE FOR HER TO ACTUALLY BE HONEST AND LOVE ME AS MUCH AS SHE SAYS SHE DOES AND HER ACTIONS PROVE OTHERWISE ?- SHE SAYS SHE HAS A HARD TIME EXPRESSING HER FEELINGS.
I’M LOST AND NEED ADVICE. EVERYTHING TELLS ME TO LET HER GO BUT THEN I THINK IF I WERE TO SET HER STRAIGHT AND IF SHE REALLY DID LOVE ME THAT MUCH IT WOULD BE WORTH IT.
SHE SAYS IF SHE LOST ME SHE WOULD BE DEVASTATED.
I’M SUPPOSEDLY THE BEST MAN SHE’S EVER MET……. AND THE ONE THAT MADE HER CHANGE FROM HER COLD SIDE THAT HAD NO FEELINGS FOR ANYONE TO HER LOVING SIDE.
SHE SAYS I AM THE ONE… SHE WRITES BLOGS ABOUT IT AND SAYS HOW GREAT I AM BUT TREATS ME LIKE CRAP ANYWAY.
SHE IS ALSO VERY REVENGEFUL AND SHE SEEMS TO ACCUSE ME OF EVERYTHING SHE DOES. OH YEAH AND SHE IS NEVER WRONG – SHE DOESN’T THINK SHE HAS DONE ANYTHING WRONG EVER IN THIS RELATIONSHIP… ITS ALL MY FAULT. I ADMIT TO HER THAT I MAKE MISTAKES AND AM NOT PERFECT, I EVEN ADMIT IT WAS MY FAULT WHEN SHE COMES AFTER ME STARTING STUFF… JUST TO END IT.
I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO BELIEVE ANYMORE.
I feel i have enogh evidence that if she is full of it… i wont be hurt if it dont work out because it wont be a surprise at all… she’s left ne a billion clues and i picked up on them all. BUT WHAT IF? WHAT IF SHE IS MY ONE TRUE LOVE? I WANT TO FIND OUT. I AM AFRAID TO LET HER GO AND NEVER FIND OUT. 2 MONTHS SHE’S STILL IN TESTING ME PHASE… MAYBE SHE’LL STOP AND SETTLE DOWN WITH ME… NO?
okay i can relate to this in one way or another.iv been with a guy for 3 years now and we have a son together im only 18 got preg at 16. just throwen that in there to explain im not old and wize. but ill tell you what 3 whole years and he cheated the 1st two and lied and probably still is. deff still lieing bout major things. he was like it in the beginning and is like it and its beginning to be the end and is still like that. ill will give him this hes VERY SLOWLY CHANGED and i mean so slowly it makes me sick. but let me explain what im saying…
If you think that you love her…or have any obligations to be with her… do it.try it? mine was pregnancy. the first 2 months for me was a breeze cuz i didnt know shit. then i slowly found out things. just like you might. and when i did i wated too long to be able to leave him. i loved him and he was gooing crazy if i mentioned it. he also blamed me for everything that he was doing and went therw periods of talking to me and periods of not. the times he wasnt was the times he was cheating. i put up with all of this and im miserable now. i cant even look at him without thinking about it. dont let it get to that . my beginning was 3 months the beginning of me realising all of this …. and let me just say it wont get better anytime soon. theres other people out there. www.plentyoffish.com whatever lol. but PLEASE dont take the shit i took or you willhave to take it forever. when she says she loves you and all this stuff she might she does in some way but obviously have some commitment problems and ex relationship problems she has to get over in order to show you that love and it might take 3 f****** years for that to happen and she still might be messing up and by that time u may have lost all ur trust in her and dont even want to be with her anymore cuz you cant be happy.
[[ sorry its the only way i can relate.]]
DONT WASTE YOUR TIME UNLESS YOU HAVE TIME TO WASTE.
ur 38 years old… your peobably wanting to settle down. so think to you want to settle down with someone you may never be absoultly happy with and spend 3 years showing them that you need to be loved or spend 3 years looking for someone whos willing to be as great or a girlfriend as you are a boyfriend and be happy forever.
allthough the obsticles make you stronger… they also make your trust in the one making them weaker.
i dont want to tell you to LEAVE her but i dont want to tell you to waste your time away
try telling her ..
your going to leave her if she dont treat u better [ or strighten up her act ] tell her even thow she says she loves you she is not proving it. tell her if shes not serious not to waste your time and break your heart. maybe try splitting up for longer and see if she changes the next tim if u have a next time of getting back together.
try 3 strikes your out.
dont waste your time.
I personally believe their has been a shift in mindset, and the people don’t want relationships anymore. I believe people are just looking for the next piece of ass where they can get it then the move on. I also think that acting like and asshole (guys) and a slut (girls) has instead being not tolerable, has become expected and tolerated. You see it all the time, people acting like complete morons and assholes and decent honest, hardworking individuals are cast as Boring or wimps. what kind of logic is that?
All I think about is settling down with a long term relationship, but as you said it’s all about who can hook up with who the most. I’ve come to the conclusion that if it’s not going to be long term then it’s nothing at all.
I have asked questions about this guy before – when he was still married we had an online affair. He was separated when he called me again and now he is divorced. we are very attracted to eachother. but he is very upset about the divorce naturally. he is asking me how he should go about winning back his wife. My first instinct is to help him and be there for him as a friend. I dont want him to think I am jealous or hot to land him so soon after the divorce. but I dont want him to start thinking of me as a friend only either. should I give him advice or not?
Being the better person usually works out in your favor.
If you are meant to be together then these are the two things that could happen.
if you try to help him get back with his wife and be a friend he will remeber that when it doesn’t work out.
If you try to keep all his attention and prevent that he will not think of of you as highly.
He is going through a hard time right now you arent’ remeber that
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I’ve gone out w/ a man 6 times, in the past month and half. We have a ton in common and it seemed we both realized we were a good fit for eachother. That is until a couple wks ago, after one of our best dates, he sent me a text a few days later, asking what I was up to, we were both not doing anything, but he never asked me out. I didn’t hear from him for 5 days after that until I reached out via text, and he ended up asking me out for the next day. Date was good, then he texted me that night and the next day a cute text but then nothing until I reached out 4 days later. He eventually asked me out for that night, but it was last min. and I suggested the next day instead, he said might work. But I didn’t hear from him till 430p that day and so I just didn’t respond b.c. He didn’t make much of an effort. I haven’t heard from him in a few days. What’s going on? Did he lose interest? He would text sweet things after our last dates, so I’m confused. I decided just to wait and see if he reaches out.
Sorry, but it sounds like he is not that into you like he was in the beginning. Sounds like he has taken a step back.
I’ve read that virgo men are very private and don’t rush into anything. I’m a cap and we don’t make a move until we have analyzed and are sure–I’ve read virgos are the same way.
I’ve worked with this guy for months and we finally started dating.He;s really shy, but we’ve already slept together. What does it mean to a virgo man once this has happened?
I’m a Virgo, and i tend to not rush into anything. Around new people i tend to be shy or in large groups. I can go out with mates and meet girls. But i dint tend to rush into it. I sit back and find out what shes like in person. Once i know ill make a move, but i wont rush into anything.
If you´ve already slept with your boyfriend, It probably doesn’t mean anything important. Just carry it on, Virgo´s love long relationships. You will see the true side of him soon. It will just take a while for him to express himself.
I feel so bad tonight, I can hardly sleep.I just found out that this guy I was involved with, flew out out town to see another woman, plus on top of that he treats me bad, he doesnt want to take me out, does not want to talk or have a nice conversation, he basically told me sex is all I will get and all I deserve..and I just notice that these are the type of guys I always tend to get involved with, guys who do not want a relationship with me, or date me, or take me out,…I always get used and hurt for some reason.. I feel like I’m not good enough, or unattractive, what gives??I thought I had all this figured out,..I was celibate for four years, and I broke my celibacy for someone who could care less about me. and its been over five years since I ve had a REAL fulfilling relationship.I feel so so bad now..and the thing is that I still have feelings for this guy..what do I do??
Please don’t take this the wrong way.
The reason they treat you like that is because you let them. You may not want the bad treatment but you stick around for more don’t you? This guy cheated on you, yes he is an @sshole and your better off without him….but he treated you bad before you knew about the other woman and you still stayed. You stayed for more bad treatment, when you should have been giving him the @ss and leaving yourself available for a nice man who doesn’t treat you bad.
Men who mistreat women have some sort of radar to women who will put up with their crap. Its like they can smell your low self esteem, insecurities or desperation on you. They know the vulnerable ones and they prey on them.
You need to fix yourself first. Stand up for yourself and demand to be treated right. If they can’t treat you right then they can’t have you…What’s the worst that could happen? They leave? Well if they don’t treat you right its no great loss is it? Just saves you months or years of inevitable pain.
When you have confidence and demand self respect. When you don’t fear being alone..You will notice that the right guys will be attracted to you. You’ll start seeing the wrong guys for what they really are…A painful waste of time, and you wont bother with them. You teach people how to treat you. People can’t mistreat you more than once unless you allow them to.
Forget this loser. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and aim higher.