In the link is a fellow’s brief description of his earlier failed relationships, and how he gradually came to some important revelations regarding maintaining a successful marriage.

http://www.blissful-wisdom.com/advice-for-men.html

What are you own thoughts about what he came to understand?

Each to his own.

1) Do not buy gifts for her unless you get something back. How would you feel if you were driving, and a homeless man came up to you and cleaned your windshield, hoping for some spare change. It’s the same concept. (This rule does not fully apply when the girl is already a girlfriend or a wife.)

2) Most girls don’t care much about looks. They care mostly about personality and social status.

3) Do not be nice. Be a good person, not a nice person. Have a backbone.

4) Don’t be afraid to tease her and humiliate her, as long as she laughs along. Do not put her on a pedestal. Doing so is also a form of sexism. They want to be treated as humans, nothing less, and especially nothing more.

5) Punish her disinterest with your disinterest. Reward her interest with your interest. The more your feelings match hers, distant or close, the greater you can influence your relationship with her to your benefit.

6) MOST IMPORTANTLY: Do not be afraid to lose her. However, don’t tell her that. If you are afraid to lose her, she has power over you. If you are, do not act like it.

To sum it all up, make her chase you and not the other way around. However, you must be the catalyst.

I know tons of guys who ask women what they want and the women say "I like nice, loyal guys". Then, the guys end up becoming nice guys and never get girls, losing them to men with the traits I described above.

Hell ya!

=)

Belle!

If you could advise your spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend or dolphin to do or NOT do on Valentine’s day, What would it be?

Honest answers, don’t be shy.
I can’t tell you how sick I am of people boycotting Valentine’s day. For the reasons of they’re bitter because they don’t have one, and the age old excuse, rather cliche: "Everyday should be Valentine’s day." Well, smart As*, if that’s the case, than Valentine’s day falls in the way of everyday, and you have no excuse NOT to celebrate!

NEXT!!!

Make it fun…

It’s not about what you spend, it’s about spending the time together and showing the other person you love them ( even if you can’t afford much ).

If you are dating…never bring up marriage or anything serious regarding the relationship.

I’ve lived with a man 37 year old man for the last 5 years. We bought a house 3 years ago, and have a little dog. I am to a point where I no longer want to put up with it. I think the final straw was the other day, it was my birthday, and I came home to find him drunk. We were supposed to go out to dinner to celebrate, but I refuse to go out with him when he is drinking. It is now 30 days out of 31 in a month that he drinks til he’s drunk. I don’t know what to do. I’m thinking of asking him to leave for a month, stay with a friend, see about getting help for his drinking..and if he doesn’t then at least I will have had a chance to get the house in order to put it on the market. Anyone have any advice? I’m really needing some good advice on the best way to handle this..financially, emotionally, etc. Don’t need the "you go girl" comments, just need the "this is the best way to approach this" comments. Thanks in advance..really! We aren’t married, but everything is joint.

Here’s a plan. You have to get your family doctor in this strategy. Put something in his food that will cause him to have a stomachache. Ask your family doctor to do a checkup and give him fake results that if he drink anymore he’ll die or something serious will happen. Do the same thing if he does not listen to you just after he had another drink. Good luck

Need quick advice 10 easy points

me and this guy have been really good friends for a long time now. we were friends with benefits. we started to develop feelings for each other.although im not ready for a relationship and neither is he. we’ve been doing good lately. but then i had a slip and initiated sex. it wasn’t suppose to happen.

how do i explain things with him? and i feel ready bad and awkward that this happened. what does that mean. i was wondering if i could make a pact with him, saying that if i slip i have to do something vice versa.

to make things a little easier

1. how do i explain this him?(keep in mind, i am a person who says what i feel but i don’t want to him overreact)
2. what does it mean if i feel bad about it happening?(we’ve been close for 3yrs)
3. could i make a pact with him?

thanks guys, this is an easy 10pts

Let him know exactly how you feel (you have feelings for him but not ready for a relationship), let him know that it was a slip that you had sex and you’re not ready for that- yet? I don’t know how good a pact would be, but if you want him to be happy, be totally honest or else in the end it will hurt much more, and he may resent you for that.

I’m 22 here, and I only want to date women who are between 38 and 48 years of age. Do you have any advice on dating women this age?

Soo, women only 38+ are mature? haha umm thats kinda gross too but whatever! They will only want you for one thing and thats a young dick!

Well i split with my BF of two years ( we are both 17). Things just werent right and withs tress of jobs and getting a qualification etc, the timing just wasn’t right. I never want to say never that we wont get back together. I Love him with every single bit of my heart and Truly do want him to be happy. I just think being 17 and starting a career etc is the wrong timing for a serious relationship.
But im wondering weather, their is always a great chance of ex-lovers getting back together years down the line? Is it a great chance or a slim chance?
I want to keep hope that one day, we will meet again and get back together.
If i don’t hold that hope, i think i would completely break down inside cause its the only thing that is keeping me strong right now.
The circumstances;
- Our relationship was truning nasty.
- We are still in daily contact
- We still love each other but as i say, the relationship was not working.

I don’t quite understand why you have broken up with a person that you really love. Some people wait years to be in your situation, to love someone and for them to love you back. You never know what the future holds, but it could also involve him meeting other people (and we all know what that could lead to) Sorry if I’m sounding blunt but I think you should think it over hun. When you really love someone and don’t want to lose them, you have to make it work.

So I have a youtube channel and I have been doing mostly beauty advice videos but for some reason I have been getting a lot of emails from men and women asking random questions about love advice, relationship advice, beauty advice, personal care advice, self improvement advice…and also requesting me to do more vlogging….I’m confused what should I focus on?? Please help with your opiniong.

my youtube channel link is:

www.youtube.com/claudettenicole

thank you!

You better do both

Sooooo..

There’s this guy that I used to like. He used to stare, make jokes, and flirt with me often.
When he was doing these things that suggested to me that he liked me; I found out he had a girlfriend. A long-term one at that. So I immediately forced myself from liking him and ended the little ‘crush’ I had, if he flirted with me while he had a girlfriend then why couldn’t he do the same if I was was his girl right?

So, lately he broke up with his girlfriend and he told my friend that he liked me but was scared to approach me.

NOW, MY QUESTION IS… Is it wrong for me to go into a relationship with him? I would not like him to flirt with other girls how he flirted with me, when had a girl, so I guess I shouldn’t ‘revamp’ my feelings? Should I?

As you guys can see, I’m a little confused on what to do,

I need a males perspective!

Thanks for answering in advance,
Much Love x

Go for it. See what he’s really like and work it from there.

Now ive read countless articles about how men should date women and how to be successful with women. However, ive not seen as much about advice on how women get the best out of potential relationships with men. And ive had countless women ask me what best to do to keep a man so to speak. So i decided to give my own bullets point if you like on this particular subject so hears goes and hope its a little useful single ladies.

(1) I think its the obvious try not to just give it up! sex i mean on a first date. Not all men are the same but chances are he will see you as to easy and something to blag to his friend over the next morning rather than serious relationship material. And also try and make your sexuality mean something if the relationship does take off, just in case he takes you for granted and thinks he can have it anytime.

(2) Id say its good to dress nicely on dates and in relationships, but don’t go over the top! If you look like a page 3 girl chances are he will like you as a bit of fun or a novelty, again a laugh for the boys! But in the end 9 weeks may go by and you will have not met his mother or family and you never will! So bad naughty girl do well short term, but elegant angelic ladies long term!

(3) Don’t always make him pay for everything and do everything! If you do you may think this is great im getting everything, don’t kidd yourself if he pays for everthing hes buying your love and paying for your beauty, and he may met someone whos more beautiful better sexually, and ohh no! Suddenly that money and the relationship will be hers so think on!

(4) If he is a decent guy don’t fuck him about! If you desire the nasty type chances are he may become that and your’ll want mr decent back, then he will dump you at some stage and think this is how all poor women want to be treated and he may give them a bad expirence and you will be partly responsible for upset further down the road.

(5) If a relationship does take off don’t always be at his throat for little things or minoir misstakes he may make, you get the best out of men when you highten there ego! So tell him things like i love the effort you put in darling, and its even greater cause its from a sexy guy like you! And you would be suprised to know that some guys like to called beautiful wined and dined on ocasions, given lovely suprises, remeber ‘All people are more alike than different’

(6) Sometimes would you believe us men have times when we are not ‘super sexed’ thats right! So don’t kill him if he turns you down cause men have to cope with this with little issue when you turn us down so its all about being equal right!

(7) If your one of those girls that is getting by with guys just cause you look great try to develop yourself alround not just in that area cause as time goes by the good stuff fads and we only have whats inside, and from my own perspective i love women that have a whole range of great things about them personaly not just physically. After all use guys can not just be all handsome and expect the world to loves us! As they say we have to be men, so you be your true best as a women mentally, spirtually, cause its these that help you long term.

(8) If you had a bad relationship in the past do not toture your current by going on about the past and comparing him to past partners, it will drive him away and before long he will think you care for your ex more and do a runner! After all why are you talking about them all the time?

(9) Try to get rid of the fictional ideals like a prince and lovely bad boy! Everyone makes misstakes and we are not part of your dream we are real and control our own reality so we will never be exactly what those novels you read are lol But we have qualites that deserve building for what they are rather than being compared to something fictional. So keep that in mind.

(10) Try giving a shy man a chance and ask him out if you like him, he may have hidden qualities both personally, and in a romantic sense and be very protective. And us men love being asked out to not just doing all the chasing, it can be a boats for our ego and most with a head on their shoulders are flatterd and truly greatful.

(11) And last but no least! Be yourself at its best and always have faith in whatever qualites you have. Its the quality that counts not always the quanty, don’t try and become a wag or silly money queen cause there are very few in our society, and even those have problems in the end in there relationships. If this is what you want you might have to ask the question ‘Do i want a man? Or to marry a bank? And no amount of money can give you that aliveness you feel when you share it with someone you truly love. Not what you are expected to love. And loves a team effort and as a man i feel alive when i know the person im with is as crazy for me as i am for them.

So thats my small points ladies haha hope you enjoyed and the very best of luck for your current and future love lifes!

regards martin x

good advice—but, i think you should’ve just titled it as Advice for Women About Men, i thought this was a question…