Been ‘dating’ this guy for 2 yrs. Mostly we do the ‘deed’, and maybe grab dinner or hang here and there. We used to once a week, now it is more like 2x month. He has stated over and over, he does NOT want a relationship. But he says things like "I love you" when he is drunk, and he has told me, and my best friend that I am the "perfect" girl in every way, but he just does not want anything more at this point in his life. He is 34, I am 28. He says he loves being single. When we are together, we have so much fun. We laugh, we have intelligent coversation, good sex, ect…
So what is really going on in his head? It’s hard, cause I have feelings for him. I am smart enough to know though, if it has not happened now, it never will.
So questions are: What is your feedback on the situation in general, and is there anything I can do?
Detailed answers, please. 10 pts for grabs.
if you want my honest opinion! when hes saying he loves you, thats the beer talking. does he say it when hes sober?, i cant see no future for you with this guy. i dont want to upset you(i wouldnt do nothing to hurt you)but it sounds to me like all hes after is some nooky. if hes a alcoholic, there wouldnt be no future for you, thats if he is one. if he doesnt want a relationship by this time, then its clear he doesnt want 1. best thing for you to do, is find someone else.
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it sounds like this is the kind of guy in fear of commitment…first of all, because he said it while he was drunk does not mean it can be ignored, being drunk releases your inhibitions and it’s possible that he feels that way inside and won’t ever show it because he’s afraid that a relationship may come of it
but even if i am right, it’s just hard to believe that this guy is anything more than a user, he doesn’t want a relationship yet he has sex with you relatively often considering he’s not with you romantically
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It seems he would like the best of both worlds but you cant have the cake and eat it too. Are you sure its consider dating? Did he say this or you cause maybe you are a exclusive funk buddy.
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What do you want from this guy? Do you really want to build a relationship with him? Well you have done evrything right with with from having a good luagh 2gether, good converstaion and good sex life 2gether and etc but if he is not interested in a relationship twith you then it is time that you need to have a face to face talk with him.
If you wanted a commitment but he is not willing, it is time to move on to find another guy who can share good laugh, good converstaion and also goos sex and full commitment. Throw him out!!
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if you want my honest opinion! when hes saying he loves you, thats the beer talking. does he say it when hes sober?, i cant see no future for you with this guy. i dont want to upset you(i wouldnt do nothing to hurt you)but it sounds to me like all hes after is some nooky. if hes a alcoholic, there wouldnt be no future for you, thats if he is one. if he doesnt want a relationship by this time, then its clear he doesnt want 1. best thing for you to do, is find someone else.
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