looking for advice to help dear friend , who’s Husband recently left her?

I would love advice for her from strangers! My friends Husband left her and her 2 kids a few months ago. ( he sees the kids hes a good enough dad, for a SOB who left/blindsided his wife) He had an emotional relationship over a business trip, told her , and after lots of fights moved out. They have been married 17 years. Their kids are 13 and 8 The kicker is, as a friend I am so lost, for advice to her now I know shes in so much pain BUT!!!!!!!. She has a new Boyfriend already . What do you think? Her friends have been there for all the pain, ( with support, advice etc…) now so fast to get hooked up again?? She went from weeks ago wanting her marriage to work, to now having this man say he loves her? I worry… He is a good family man as far as I can tell, but I am worried this is bad timing, and could make everything worse for her if it doesn’t work.

Your friend really needs to take some time OUT for herself, to sort out her feelings, and start feeling good about herself first of all….While it might FEEL better for her to know she has another guy there for her to support her, she needs to open her eyes and see what is happening with this guy…..How can he possibly KNOW he loves her already in just a few weeks…..she had better be careful…..she may be jumping from the frying pan into the fire here….She need to slow down and then SLOW HIM DOWN as well….What is his big rush….doesn’t he realize that she is on the rebound here….there is something weird about a guy telling her he loves her already when she has only been without her husband for a couple of months…what is his rush…????? I don’t know hon…..it sounds like he is moving WAY too fast.
You need to be there to support her, but don’t let her rush into something with this guy way too fast….that is not what she needs right now, and what if it doesn’t work out between the two of them….she doesn’t need a second broken heart, when she isn’t even healed from the loss of her marriage yet….Tell her to tread very carefully….It sounds like you are a great friend….she is lucky to have you….(((((HUGS))))) to you…!!!!!

5 thoughts on “looking for advice to help dear friend , who’s Husband recently left her?

  1. she deserves to make some mistakes. i think you can just listen and support her. she will likely make mistakes in this time.
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  2. Just a rebound — probably won’t last the year.
    As already stated, let her make her mistakes,
    just be there to lend an ear and moral support.
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  3. Your friend really needs to take some time OUT for herself, to sort out her feelings, and start feeling good about herself first of all….While it might FEEL better for her to know she has another guy there for her to support her, she needs to open her eyes and see what is happening with this guy…..How can he possibly KNOW he loves her already in just a few weeks…..she had better be careful…..she may be jumping from the frying pan into the fire here….She need to slow down and then SLOW HIM DOWN as well….What is his big rush….doesn’t he realize that she is on the rebound here….there is something weird about a guy telling her he loves her already when she has only been without her husband for a couple of months…what is his rush…????? I don’t know hon…..it sounds like he is moving WAY too fast.
    You need to be there to support her, but don’t let her rush into something with this guy way too fast….that is not what she needs right now, and what if it doesn’t work out between the two of them….she doesn’t need a second broken heart, when she isn’t even healed from the loss of her marriage yet….Tell her to tread very carefully….It sounds like you are a great friend….she is lucky to have you….(((((HUGS))))) to you…!!!!!
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  4. Well, maybe she is making a mistake…. but it is her choice. This new bf keeps her mind off the pain somewhat… and maybe that’s all she wants right now.
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    Also hurting from a breakup.

  5. I don’t think she is fully over the first relationship and my two big tips are don’t let the second guy move for a very long time like a year. Second she needs to go through the steps of grief which are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.
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