Black Ladies, how come we don’t see more black women and white men in relationships?


well I’m a black girl and I can assure you, I have no problem with dating a white guy; I believe the reason more black girls don’t date white guys is because of they are afraid of how society will react to them being with somebody who is outside of their racial standards if you will. People can be so biased and judgmental sometimes that black women that do want to date a white guy or vice versa won’t because they are afraid of how people will look at them.

Me on the other hand, I am very comfortable dating a white guy…oh and btw, for all of you that commented on how black women tend to have a bad attitude, again, that is just another biased stereotype that I feel does not apply to everyone…all races and genders have attitudes, it’s just assumed black women have a worse attitude than white women. Let me be one of the first to say that I don’t have an attitude, I’m assertive; if anything I’m very pleasant and fun to be around, and that came from the mouths of my black and white friends…

As for the "3rd leg comment" all I have to say is this, if a guy knows how to use it properly, size shouldn’t matter, regardless of what they say about a black man’s penis. Holly (above) is absolutely right, the different in a black man’s penis is not as large as many assume it is, and no, I don’t know this from personal experience, but rather from medical experience since I’m in the medical field…

16 thoughts on “Black Ladies, how come we don’t see more black women and white men in relationships?

  1. I’m not a black lady, but a multi-racial guy. I can tell you that I’m intimidated by black ladies because of their attitude. I’ve seen many fine black ladies that I love to hook up with, but my black guy friends always warn me about their attitude, and that to never get them mad at you. I don’t know if they were saying that to me because they want the black chicks to themselves, or if it was a straight up warning.
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  2. I’m white as a true Aussie and my women is beautifully black.
    I’m Happy !
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  3. You see more black women with white men here in Europe than black guys with white women. There is some stigma still lingering in the United States where it’s a weird taboo for black women and white men to be together. I never understood it. It may have social origins going all the way back to slavery.
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  4. That’s a good question. I learned in my sociology class that black women report the most unhappiness in their relationships. However, they also report themselves as the least likely to date outside of their race. Maybe you should broaden the pond you’re catching the fish from, ladies.

    But then again, I’m one who thinks it’s wrong when *anyone* says "I’ll only date (this or that race)." It’s very superficial, and if someone thinks that way… they MUST buy into stereotypes. They have to, cause apparently they think all people of one race have the same positive/negative characteristics. We should all be open to everyone, and just let the cards fall where they will.

    I’m not sayin all black guys are bad. I don’t think that at all. I’m with one. But what I’m sayin is… look around more… be more accepting of the options that are out there. If ya make people (men) feel like they can’t talk to you, then guess what? They won’t.

    P.S. As long as black men (the ones who you all complain about giving you heartache and grief) feel that they can keep treating women like sh** and get away with it…. they’ll keep doing it. But if they start to see that y’all are lookin in other places, it might change things up pretty quick… if ya get my drift.

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    I feel the same way mizzjhenepink (below). I mean about the fact that it should be about the person and how they treat you. Personally I can’t stand when anyone is into someone BECAUSE they’re black or BECAUSE they’re white, or asian or whatever. I think that’s beyond stupid. =P

    And tarus (below), that is an extremely typical thing to say. You can’t sit there and tell me that black women don’t put up with sh** from guys. Open up your eyes and look around. Then come back when you’ve decided to get real. Just cause someone doesn’t bi*** all the time doesn’t mean they’re "putting up with crap."

    Maybe the reason (some) black women seem like they stand up to their men more is because they keep choosing men who constantly need to be brought down a few pegs. And maybe the reason you don’t see (most) white women jumping down their man’s throat all the time is because they chose someone who treats them right… and they’re actually happy. Ever think of that?

    Oh and by the way "I’m not black" either but I also "have lots of friends that are." So what exactly is your point? Sorry everyone, I’m not trying to spread stereotypes at all. I don’t believe in them. But then, that’s precisely why I’m writing this.

    Osto (below, but now deleted), I’m not sure if that’s addressed to me… but I’m thinking probably yes. I never said "race doesn’t matter." Obviously people have differences according to how they grew up, etc. What I said was that it’s wrong to rule people out because of those superficial differences. And if white guys do that, as you allege, then that’s wrong too. So I don’t see what the big problem is. Seems like we’re in agreement from where I stand. But should I be insulted that you’re referring to where I live as "negro-town"? Am I being discriminated against because I’m the only white person here? That was sarcastic humor, in case you’re getting offended…

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    P.S. Here’s the truth about average penis sizes. As you can see, there is a difference… but not NEARLY as big a difference as most would have you believe. It’s about half an inch. Black women also have bigger vaginas, if anyone cares to know. That’s also mentioned on askmen.com.

    http://www.askmen.com/love/vanessa_60/87b_love_secrets.html
    http://www.coolnurse.com/penis_size.htm
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  5. I only date black chicks,but a lot you might scared cause of the attitude they have.As for me the attitude is a big turn on.
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  6. it’s not about the color.u know??

    but if u ask me, i do like black girls…..they hot….and they have the attitude…………….

    by the way, i’m from the philippines, over here there are lots of interracial couples………it is probably the same over there……….
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  7. Me personally love white guys and yes im black but mixed
    but mainly black. I think its more racial to ppl sometimes like i know a girl who is always like ew i don’t wanna be with some white man and others like myself don’t really care,just as long as you can treat me right then it don’t matter to me if u are red green and blue.
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  8. Because a white man can’t handle a strong women. They don’t put up with the b.s. that white women do.And by the way I’m not black but I do have lot’s of friends that are black and their all strong women. You go girls.
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  9. It’s all about the third leg. I’ve heard that white boys have next to nothing. But,seriously most black men carry themselves in a way that is appealing to us sisters so why should we look further.
    Sometime, when you’re doing nothing check out a brother when he;s decked out in his rags. Tall,Dark,and handsome looking good in the neighborhood. Should I say more? I rest my case.
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  10. well I’m a black girl and I can assure you, I have no problem with dating a white guy; I believe the reason more black girls don’t date white guys is because of they are afraid of how society will react to them being with somebody who is outside of their racial standards if you will. People can be so biased and judgmental sometimes that black women that do want to date a white guy or vice versa won’t because they are afraid of how people will look at them.

    Me on the other hand, I am very comfortable dating a white guy…oh and btw, for all of you that commented on how black women tend to have a bad attitude, again, that is just another biased stereotype that I feel does not apply to everyone…all races and genders have attitudes, it’s just assumed black women have a worse attitude than white women. Let me be one of the first to say that I don’t have an attitude, I’m assertive; if anything I’m very pleasant and fun to be around, and that came from the mouths of my black and white friends…

    As for the "3rd leg comment" all I have to say is this, if a guy knows how to use it properly, size shouldn’t matter, regardless of what they say about a black man’s penis. Holly (above) is absolutely right, the different in a black man’s penis is not as large as many assume it is, and no, I don’t know this from personal experience, but rather from medical experience since I’m in the medical field…
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    life experience; and I’m a medical student…

  11. i’m a white guy who is dating his first black girl…and she is the best i have ever had..she is caring and considerate and doesnt have an attitude… she treats me right and ithink im going to marry her
    well if she accepts

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