Women file for divorce 75% of the time. Is it possible that with alimony, community property, and child support that men’s value to committed relationships is lesser? I mean, let’s face it, with that in mind, women have less to lose and if you’re having relationship difficulties it would be easier for them to call it quits since they stand to lose the least out of the deal.
Yes, the laws are definitely in women’s favor. There are a small percentage of women that get screwed because they make more money. However, most of the time women get the house, car and kids. Then she gets child support and sometimes alimony to buy something for her new boyfriend. If that wasn’t enough, there is the "presumed fathers law" which means that a man is presumed to be the father of a child even if his wife got pregnant by another man. Does this sound like a fair deal to you? Sorry if I sound bitter but I’m just stating the facts. I’m actually a single father but I’ve known many guys screwed by the system.
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yes- men don’t get any chance at all and women often play the victim. it’s kind of gross.
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Alimony is one thing, but child support, and to a lesser extent community property is not in place to screw parents, but to protect kids.
Yes, there is the odd case of a Heather Mills who contributes absolutely nothing to a marriage and still thinks she should get to walk away with the equivalent of a small country’s GNP just for being Mrs. McCartney for a few years. That’s repulsive. And in any system designed to cover a range of circumstances, somebody’s going to get screwed.
But most divorces are not like that. And frankly, I can’t believe the number of men I meet who are determined to pay as little as possible for the upkeep and support of children that they were 50% responsible for bringing into the world. Why should a child suffer financially because their parents couldn’t get it together?
If someone can’t deal with that level of responsibility (or risk, frankly) then they should stay single and use condoms.
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Courts are slow to come aroud to being modernistic in their thinking of this matter. Not always it the woman at the disadvantage anymore in the power of money earning. It’s the thought of most courts that minor children are more attached and therefore better off with the mother in case of child custody and therefore the woman bears the responsibility moreso in seeing the support money spent on them is in her control. As for alimony, it should be noted that both partner’s earning abilities are brought to bear when the court decides on this, as should the division of assets and other private properties the two own. Judges today need to make a sound, clear understood judgement from all the facts in each case and decide accordingly and fairly.
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Yes, the laws are definitely in women’s favor. There are a small percentage of women that get screwed because they make more money. However, most of the time women get the house, car and kids. Then she gets child support and sometimes alimony to buy something for her new boyfriend. If that wasn’t enough, there is the "presumed fathers law" which means that a man is presumed to be the father of a child even if his wife got pregnant by another man. Does this sound like a fair deal to you? Sorry if I sound bitter but I’m just stating the facts. I’m actually a single father but I’ve known many guys screwed by the system.
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look it. It takes 2 to tango. What I mean by that is WHOEVER is making more money should help out more with the child support and other things that go along with that. BUT then theres the other side NO ONE wants to see. And that is SHE is usually the one that is raising the kids all by herself while the husband gets them on the weekends or every other week??? Shes there with them 5 or more days a week. Putting up with ALL that goes with that too!!!! So like I said. It take two to take care of matters. I don’t think it’s fair that woman get alimony if it’s just the wife. I think thats unfair. I mean if theres no children involved. Today it shouldn’t be that way. Woman are very capable of working and getting some kind of a career for themselves. SO getting back to your question?? YES it is fair for the most part that the wife gets child support and help raise the kids. It’s either that or you guys can take them and put up with what goes with it!!!!! Is it ALWAYS fair??? NO>>> But both partys are giving something up. At least you guys have some kind of peace without putting up with all the crap that comes with raising children. You only have to dig a little deeper into your pockets. So take your choice. It’s either the crap with raising kids or dig deeper. So don’t act like the guys always come out holding the short end of the stick. Woman also have there stuff too to deal with. It’s not easy raising children. BOTH partys always lose in a situation like divorce!!! Stop playing the poor guy role.
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You know why women file for divorce more? Because it is often the men who are the problem.
My ex beat me, cheated on me, plunged us into financial ruin, and neglected and abused the children. He would never have divorced me because I was a good wife and put up with his crap.
He likes to play the victim, like I’m milking him out of house and home with the child support he has to pay. He has to pay the bare minimum and he could do that comfortably if he wasn’t spending his money on casinos and other things he could do without.
Yes, I’m well aware that there are some women who take advantage of good men and I think such people are an abomination to society.
But just think about all the jerks of men that are out there who give men a bad name and force us to have the child support laws. It’s the people like them that raise the percentage of women who file for divorce.
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Dont men know what they are getting into though? I mean that doesnt make sense if a man knows this about alimony and child support but still decides to have an affair! Dont most men bring it upon themselves?
I worked in matrimonial law and found that no the courts dont always favor the mother.
I am still waiting for my daughters father to get his act together and get caught up on child support. The courts have not been helpful! I have his first daughter but he has continued since me to get two other women pregant which conveniently lowers his support for my daughter.
So I am the one who ends up covering all my daughters costs because her father cant seem to be a responsible adult. The courts gave him joint custody even though he is a irresponsible loser and sets a bad example for our daugther, mean while he cant even pay his child support.
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Definitly!
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