This is something I’ve wondered about for a long time, what’s the deal with men who allow their Mothers to control them to the point it interferes with their relationships, even marriages for the few of these types that manage to get married? I’m talking about men over the age of 20 as those under the age of 20 are basically still kids. What causes men to be such mama’s boys that they let her rule them and interfere with even the intimate areas of their lives?
Did the Mother’s warp them as children? Or what?
Begbie: It’s clear this question hit a nerve with you, which tells me you must be one of those men lol it’s OK dear I’m sure you’re a great guy, you’ll just need to find yourself a woman who doesn’t mind you and her being controled by an old woman. Far as your accusations towards me, I’m neither a Feminist nor a Misandrist and I like the dudes way too much to be a dyke. 😉
BratRich: I don’t have a b/f right now.
LBDSM: That makes a lot of sense! Wow, never thought of that.
It’s almost like "Daddy’s girls" right? :P.
Seriously though, I think those type of men are mama’s boys because they simply don’t wish to disappoint their mothers. And many times, boys and/or men don’t know about how a woman thinks or about the actions of a woman so they may turn to the only woman that they can personally trust to answer that, which is their mother.
Also, lack of female interaction may have a hand in it as well, which is the point I made in the last statement. Admittedly, these men may love their mother’s so much that they will fall in love with the IDEA of their mother in another woman. (Hence the phrase, "…just like my mom").
The blame for this may not fall on just the mother’s as well (as many father’s are great parents to their daughters, yet hard on their sons.) Lack of compassion for children from the father’s side may have a hand in that, which would eventually lead to the son flocking to "Mommy"…(especially in a single parent family)
I suppose the control you refer to comes from almost completely loyality to their mother’s I suppose. I mean really..Who wants to hurt the feelings of a good parent, you know? Maybe the mother is totally overemotional and feels that she will never be a part of her son’s life if and/or when he finds a wife or maybe the son has no confidence in his mother’s ability to be without him or something. Who knows. People are different