Don’t they have a really strong "yuck" factor putting them off it? I’m happily married, but when i see a young woman, i’m often reminded of my daughter and i just find the idea of them being in a sexual relationship with me disgusting. Do older men who do get together with younger women just not have daughters or something?
in response to Everard G and others who have written here, us so called "old boilers" have a lot going for us, for example:
emotional maturity; a well developed sense of personal style; classiness; self belief; a developed intellect; love; wisdom; compassion; good dress sense; kindness, well honed cooking skills and well developed companionship skills.
ofcourse we don’t have the same youthful beauty or the same amount of over-exuberant sexual energy.
it comes down to what do you want from a relationship; a true and loving companion or a sex-bunny?
grayure, i’m glad you are grounded in your sensibilities and respect the younger generation for what they are – a different generation to you – to be nurtured; not preyed upon simply for sexual gratification.
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You’ve obviously never taken a biology class
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Shallow men are more attracted to looks than personality. And besides, a lot of people stop maturing around 20. There really isn’t an age gap in their minds.
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I imagine the men aren’t thinking all that much about their daughters (if they have them) when they are having sex with a younger woman. Perhaps they see them as human beings who are younger.
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I am not sure but it may be a way to try and hold on to youth that has long ago vanished.
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Texan
Most often, sagging egoes
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everybody is genetically programmed to breed with the healthiest possible specimens. older men who date young girls are simply living out that programming.
its people who have sex with morbidly obese women that really trigger MY yuck factor.
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because women mature faster then men and women our age are usually jaded but younger women usually still have a bright outlook on life and and older guy could feel like hes helping her out
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Because we can. It seems many younger women want older men.
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It would be weird if in fact if the man in question did have a young daughter of similar age.
Men who have never produced offspring wouldn’t have that thought process….I mean it would occur to me either !
I don’t see a problem with it if for example and single man 35 got together with a stunning 20 year old girl…..I’d say fair play to him.
Or were you think in broader terms ?
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Attraction has nothing to do with age. It has to do with a lot of other things and the social stigma of a large age difference doesn’t mean that much to many men.
You might as well ask why younger women have relationships with older men. It’s all the same, they choose to have a relationship with somebody because they are attracted to and enjoy being with them.
The only yuck factor is in your head an it has no real bearing on the couples in question.
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Normal men will not be with a woman who looks like their daughters. If a woman does not look like their daughter and just happens to be younger, that is normal. Everyone has a preference. I am a woman who prefers older men because they are usually more mature.
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Some, just because they can. Remember the Jerry Lee Lewis song, "39 and Holding"? And I have been guilty. Nothing serious, but I have dated much younger women, mostly, because they asked me to go out with them. I soon realize the "generation gap", and now only date women closer to my own age.
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Because their wives go through menopause and no longer need or want sex.Men always need it if they do not get it at home they go looking for it.Older woman sex hurts because of dryness so they go after the younger woman.
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LOL, In the movie "Moostruck" they said it was because men were afraid of death. If all parties are single, I don’t see the problem. Some women like an older, mature and settled man. As a young girl, I dated an older man. He was good to me, always respectful and very handsome. He knew a lot about the world that the guys my age did not. In fact guys my age seemed like "boys’ at that time. Now I’m not talking Anna Nicole type difference but there is more to a person than chronological age.
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I don’t know. Is it the same reason older women have relationships with younger men? Never considered it so I don’t think I know anyone involved in these kind of relationships.
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Well they do say love is blind.
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Quite often its the women that do the chasing,as i the case of my life long pal who’s wife died 3 years ago.He had no intention of starting again, but a lady living near him, started to look after him when his daughter was ill, and that started a relation ship.She got to visiting every day and suddenly asked if they aught to marry.He told me he had not made any advances and it shook him.Twice he declined,but 2 weeks ago she asked again.I am still waiting the result.
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Mid life crisis. The same reason they buy sports cars, etc.
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What about the other way around. There are many, many older women who have relationships with younger men – look it up, it is quite rampant.
I do not find anything wrong with whatever others choose to do, as long as it does not effect this world in a negative way, and that certainly doesn’t.
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Older men like younger women because those women aren’t as "clued in" as the women their own age.
In other words, women their own age won’t put up with their crap and younger women are still learning how to define "crap."
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If you turned that question around and asked why young girls have relationships with older men, I think I could offer an answer. Have you seen teenage and 20-something boys lately? Yuck! Many of those boys are rude, ignorant, abusive, poorly groomed and unfit for dating.
There are some nice young men out there, but they are becoming increasingly rare.
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Very funny! "Yuck" factor? You gotta be kidding. Older men are more apt to think "Yuck" with a older woman.
I guess it makes the man feel younger to go with a younger woman.
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When I was 22 I met and fell in love with a 39 year old man. I’m 55 now and he’s 72. No yuck factor whatsoever! I’m crazy about this guy.
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Some younger women have this ‘thing’ about older men. Friend of mine married a guy 16 years older than she. She turned 50 when he started drawing social security. He treated her wonderfully and like the queen she is. He’s a great guy. Rather, WAS a great guy since he died 2 years ago. They were married almost 24 years.
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My dear the variability of sexual preferences of the human animal are many. Why you choose just one to ask about, and why that one should be of more concern to you than to any other,is troubling. Personally I have no trouble with an older man seeing a younger woman. Some relationships are genuine, some are phony, some are for appearance, some are for money. But I also do not care if the older man is in a relationship with another older man, younger man, older woman, Asian woman or man, African woman or man, etc etc, just as long as it is not a child. I prefer to let people live and love the life they choose.
It does get a little disturbing when the human decides to include other species. Because animals cant make a choice or have any say. But still that’s their choice, the human. Let it be. Live and let live.
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What would YOU prefer…
Cheesecake or Cold biscuits?
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I think these men are trying to relive their childhood when women their age was always ready for sex instead of being all caught up in their grand-kids. I have 3 sons and one daughter. All grown and on their own and the thought of having a relationship with a young man my sons ages is disgusting to me. But, I know a few women who are having relationships with men 20 years younger than them. I just don’t get it. I am lucky to still be with my husband after 38 years and both of us are happy with life and marriage. But, we put our marriage first and not our grand-kids. I think that is where a lot of older couples make their mistake. Just my opinion.
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Because they can…simple as that… there is a flock of gals out there seriously younger who only want to date / see older men……seriously older men. WE have money, still can get the job done, but more slowly and more considerately, do not have money worries that ruin relationships, not all of us are ugly, and many of us take damned good care of ourselves at gyms, etc. WE have raised our families, our kids are not priority #1 in our lives. And don’t think the younger women are in it for the money…they are not! Far too many younger men are vain, ill mannered, selfish, consider sex to be all about them. Personally, I don’t blame younger gals for being interested in older men. AND I do not blame older women being interested in younger men for different, but often same reasons!
I have NOTHING against older people, in general…and in fact, it is far more comfortable getting undressed with an older person BUT….when that "older" extends to frame of mind and energy, we have a problem.
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Cos them older ones remember what me was like at School my dear.
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They do this to make themselves feel young
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Some older men are sex mad, they divorce their poor wife because she is getting wrinkles, and her body begins to sag, then they look for younger bait.
Sometimes they divorce several wives, because they want to walk about with a trophy wife on their arm.
I know because a member of my family does this all the time.
Little do they know everyone is laughing at the old fool, and their almost bald dome, and their
wrinkles.
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If he is cheating on /divorcing his wife for the younger woman ; the younger woman is too emotionally immature to stand up to him, she is looking for a father figure as her own father was absent and she needs vaidation by an older man that she is a good girl. Good at what he only knows.
Providing the older person has not left their spouse and children to go after someone who is younger and unable to see what damage they have done to the family, then that is their life.
I have seen though, a man of 49 date and go out with a girl from his sons circle of friends (19 year old) while still married and having strayed many times before.
The 49 year old man did not/still doesn’t act like a role model or father (providing assistance or guidance) for his sons nor grandchildren and often says inappropriate sexual things. He finds he can only be understood by his much younger partner because they are both emotionally immature and narrow-minded. He cheats on her too.
She was looking for a father figure and can not figure out why she has not had children. He had a vasectomy years ago.
One day his former wife was asked by their doctors receptionist to sign the permission form for his vasectomy; she said "but I had a hysterectomy 9 years ago".
He has never told his 30 year younger partner that he had a vasectomy. He is now 74 and she is still waiting to have children.
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The reasons are as varied as the people themselves. The only thing that grosses me out is 2 extremely obese people having sex. I wonder how they can even manage?
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Older men learn how to sweet talk young women and that is what the young women are looking for, romance, and young guys just don’t know how to romance a woman.
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I know I am suppose to answer the question, in defense of overweight people, but for the Wiz, evidently you never had sex with a nine month pregnant woman. And yes it can be done! Do I have any witnesses? Big belly, baby kicking and all! And trust me the other person isn’t always slim jim themsleves, so it can be done.
The yuck factor would come from the parents, mine was my grandmother and for my daughter it was me. Sorry I can’t tell you all that she told me, but she was right.
I like you, didn’t like the thought of her in a sexual relationship with an older man before she was 22 and out of college. She is 30 now and dates an older man, 10 years her senior and I respect it and can accept it more because she is older and has experienced life, marriage, and sex therefore she not "green" or "wet behind the ears" so to speak, and can handle all that being in a relationship like this brings. Age differences with men and young women over 30 I figure is her choice.
I hate to say it but a man that would date a young woman close to his own daughter’s, age especially in the age group 21-31, I have a problem with that. Too close to comfort if you know what I mean, sorry I had to put that out there. I’ve seen it too many times. This is the real world we live in. Your 50, your daughter is 25 and your girlfriend is 26? Hmmm?
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Cos young chicks are hot; old boilers are not.
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in response to Everard G and others who have written here, us so called "old boilers" have a lot going for us, for example:
emotional maturity; a well developed sense of personal style; classiness; self belief; a developed intellect; love; wisdom; compassion; good dress sense; kindness, well honed cooking skills and well developed companionship skills.
ofcourse we don’t have the same youthful beauty or the same amount of over-exuberant sexual energy.
it comes down to what do you want from a relationship; a true and loving companion or a sex-bunny?
grayure, i’m glad you are grounded in your sensibilities and respect the younger generation for what they are – a different generation to you – to be nurtured; not preyed upon simply for sexual gratification.
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Runa S, great comment. i guess .. they are attracted to the older men .. because they have the qualities i have described above!! men have these wonderful qualities too when they mature.
Because older men believe dating a younger woman will impress their friends, and other older men. They see this guy with a young woman and figure, wow, must be he can still get it on, lucky SOB.
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I asked some of my older male friends
Men?….Women have relationships with younger men all the time, not that it’s right that is just the way it is and it is not like it just started yesterday.
Older men younger women.
Older women younger men.
Older men younger men
Older women younger women
There is a lot more of yuck going around, that I won’t mention.
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Why do the younger women enter these relationships ? its a two way proposition .
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I think they want to feel young again, but often times the gal leaves for someone closer to her age. I’m sure it’s an ego booster to squire a younger woman on your arm. Sure, in rare situations it may work, but an older man can’t keep up with a younger woman for too long, no matter how physically fit he is, and he surely can’t change the hands of time.
Now, to all who are jumping up and down about this answer, relax, I said it works in rare situations, or where monetary play comes into the picture. My opinion is solely one opinion out of many.
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In my lifetime, I’ve seen this happen between co-workers, friends, etc
In any situation, it’s always sad to see a relationship end.
for the same reason that young men (over 18) have relationships with older women. There is no yuck factor (except for some of the onlookers and fingerpointers). I’d be thinking more like you have that mothering attitude so a child (any person who has been born to you or your friends) in your mind is always a child. It’s more of a problem to the viewer than the experiencers. Other people have been able to change and understand that people are just people, and that there is such a thing as maturing and I don’t mean aging.. Relationships arent all about sex or just about sex.
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