Why do some men think relationships should be a one way street?

It seems like a lot of men want to be able to get away with things and treating us a certain way…But how come when we do it back, it’s suddenly wrong? If a man wants to be treated right, shouldn’t he treat his woman right? What’s with the double standard…Why is it ok for a man to be certain way in the relationship and not the woman? Are they trying to be superior and set the standards for a relationship? What’s up with that!!!

At the risk of sounding like I’m defending my gender, I will say there are women who seem to think the same way. It is probably more common for men to have this attitude than women, however.

Part of it is the attitude and acceptance by the other person in the relationship. If you tolerate his behaving that way it is an incentive for him to go on with it. Or if I tolerated it from my wife or other partner it would reinforce their behavior. Some men learn this from watching the way their parents act.

My mother was the stronger person among my parents. My father was inclined to just accept things–Mom wanted to change them. So I tend to be a little more democratic (note the little "D", please) in my relationship with my wife.

In both of my marriages I have tried to treat my women right. My first wife took full advantage of that. My second and current wife tends to be a lot more pushy than I would like but other than that she is reasonably fair in our relationship. I don’t demand very much.

Simple question–a very complex answer. I hope it helps.