I came out as bi a few years ago (after being a le s bi an for about 5 years.) This is the first serious relationship I have had with a guy. At first it was really great, but after 6 months I am finding some things really hard.
Having been with women for many years I am finding being with a guy quite difficult. At times I think my bf can be a bit insensitive and I find I’m having to explain how I am feeling all the time. Also he is not as open about his feelings as I would like him to be.
Our sex life is great – he tells me that I am very open about what I want which he likes. Its also the only time when he is really expressive.
Am I expecting too much – are all guys like this?
Batman: men tend not to be as sensetive to feelings as the fairer sex, my old chum.
Robin: gee wizz, batman, I guess its true what they say, men are from mars and women are from venus.
Batman: a sound observation, Robin.
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Batman: men tend not to be as sensetive to feelings as the fairer sex, my old chum.
Robin: gee wizz, batman, I guess its true what they say, men are from mars and women are from venus.
Batman: a sound observation, Robin.
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Yes all guys are like that,
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I am afraid to a degree what you observe is correct.Don’t be to hard on the man because he is biologically designed like this.
The problem is you have been spoilt by being in an all female relationship and you have to make the decision as to whether you take a man for what he is including the negatives or have a female partner based on the same premise.
Maybe the issue is one of not having yet found the right partner,irrespective of gender
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No we are not! In my case I will (would) often find myself in your shoes feeling unsatisfied about even spending time with one another. Feeling things have plateaued before the journey even starts. Thinking to myself "at least someone is happy"
It would be easier to see what might be happening with a little more insight. If it was really great then what happened? Have you been waiting for a deeper relationship and found that it isn’t going to happen.
The second part about wanting him to be more open could be a disaster. People are open or they aren’t. Some take longer to know than others; often for a good reason.
You want more of a daily interaction with him and that may put a strain on him that could spoil other aspects of your relationship. You say ‘we don’t talk . . ‘ He hears ‘its not happening in bed’
What to do is always the hard part. If you start doing something with your time he will have to fight for some of it. Do more together or go to bed earlier.
You can never expect too much for yourself and he should be the first to tell you this. Maybe you are not talking about what you want to. You should talk. In bed maybe. I’m told this is when men are most understanding (or compliant : ).
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stop whining and over-analysing or he will leave.
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