This is going to sound a little insecure, but I truly don’t mean it to. I just need some advice from someone who is more experienced in area’s of relationships.
I’m 20 years old and I’m still a virgin. I’ve started dating this guy that I really like. He’s a few years older than me.. and more experienced in almost every aspect of life than I am. Especially sexually. We’ve talked about it and he thinks it’s great that I am a virgin. We fool around and I like being around him. He’s really genuine and sweet to me. He also doesn’t pressure me to do anything that I’m not comfortable with. Although, he’s been with SEVERAL women. Women that are even older than him. And I’ve had one boyfriend that I’ve even gotten close to becoming that intimate with.
I worry that I’m being compared..sometimes even that I bore him. I find that it is really hard for me to feel sexy and even entertaining to him because he is so experienced. All I can think about are all the other women he’s been with.
If there are any other women out there that have been in this situation what did you do? How can I feel sexy and enticing.. and if I do choose to get a little closer to him how can I be more…for lack of a better word virginy haha!?
And guys, if you’ve ever been in this situation what did you think of the girl? Did it last long or did you find her lack of experience boring? Were you just as turned on by her as other women?
I know this is really a strange question to ask on a computer chatting site, but I need some outside advice other than from my friends.
This guy is really important to me. I know he says he doesn’t mind, but I feel like eventually it could become a problem…? I just don’t want to lose him over something like this. I know how important sex and intimacy are in a relationship. But it’s hard for me to want to open up because he makes me feel soo vulnerable.. and well inexperienced haha!
Thank you for any help ; )
First off guys are VERY visually stimulated. Seeing you naked will be enough to turn him on. Throw a little confidence on top and its over. You just need to realize that he’s with you because he wants to be. That means he’s attracted to you, so don’t concern yourself with his past when you’re his future. As for the whole girl lacking experience thing you are who you are. If he knows and understands that you are a virgin then it’s his responsibility to be as caring and gentle with you as possible. Once you are comfortable with it then you can worry about rocking his world but until then relax and let him take control. Besides guys love telling girls what to do in bed.
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practice makes perfect
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you know what, if he truly loves you, he will not compare you to his past GF’s…. and you dont have to do anything to make him love you even more, things should happen naturally,
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21 & in a 3yr relationship
Hey darling,
My oh my, I’ve been in your situation before. I too was a virgin when I met my (now) fiance. He found it extremely attractive. Men appreciate girls who aren’t (for lack of a better word) tramps. They respect girls who have respect for themselves. Guys feel like they’ve hit the jack pot when they find an attractive girl that is still a virgin. It makes you seem like wife material rather than just a one night stand. My fiance waited TWO years for me to give him my virginity. And let me tell you, when I finally gave him that privilege he truly felt like the most special guy on earth. Giving a guy something as sacred as your virginity really shows how much you care about them, believe me. My fiance and I have been together for five years now and I couldn’t be happier. Don’t feel like you are boring him. I use to think that same way, but guys love a good chase, and if he’s truly worth it, he WILL wait until you are comfortable and it will be all the more special. Sex isn’t everything. Fool around with him, dress up in sexy lingerie and just let him play / make-out if you want to feel sexy without going that far yet. And when the time comes, don’t worry just relax, don’t think about how "inexperienced" you are. It comes naturally. Just go with the flow. Believe me, once you get past that first time, you will feel like a pro, haha!
Good luck darling, and major props to you for remaining a virgin. The world needs more girls that respect themselves like you!!!
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alright, all i can say is that you really need to just forget about the other girls he’s been with. i know it can be intimidating to think of all the things he has done with other girls. BUT if you just act like yourself and have a positive outlook on everything, and have some self confidence, he will be the one intimidated by you. trust me, i cannot count how many time i have been dating a girl who was less sexually active than me, but i was still intimidated by her because of her confidence and overall positive outlook. have fun, be comfortable with yourself, and do not think about the other girls hes been with. good luck!!
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First off guys are VERY visually stimulated. Seeing you naked will be enough to turn him on. Throw a little confidence on top and its over. You just need to realize that he’s with you because he wants to be. That means he’s attracted to you, so don’t concern yourself with his past when you’re his future. As for the whole girl lacking experience thing you are who you are. If he knows and understands that you are a virgin then it’s his responsibility to be as caring and gentle with you as possible. Once you are comfortable with it then you can worry about rocking his world but until then relax and let him take control. Besides guys love telling girls what to do in bed.
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Yes, I know how you feel. You should be honest and tell him your concern, the only thing that made me feel better was him knowing my insecurities and assuring me it didn’t matter to him. And honestly when men are in the act they are thinking of nothing but the moment they’re in. Even if he does compare you, it’s not a competition, it’s more of an observation. Sex is an activity that requires communication.
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