I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. It’s been great until last year. I was okay with him going out, but there where times I felt.. I didn’t trust him; but for a girl that was always natural.
One day I was going through his phone and text messages.. He text a girl stating She was gorgeous and hope she was okay from the other night. I was furious when I found out. I approached him and he explained that nothing was goin on. He said he went out with his friends and this girl wanted to get with him. He confessed that he didn’t tell that her he had a girlfriend. When asked if he had ever called her, he said no.. but in fact he did. He begged for me to stay, so I gave him another chance.. and told myself if he does it again.. It’s over.
Well a few days ago, I so happened to check his phone. There was another text message from another girl.. he explained to me it was innocent flirting.
Am I getting to ahead of myself from the last time? What should I do?
Well , you said if it happened again and it did…you know the answer.
You don’t trust him, and there is a good reason for that. He made you not trust him. He is flirting with other people and thats not acceptable in a relationship. MOVE on and find someone you can trust. There is one there for everyone.
Also…you have no trust issues…you just know (its a feeling) when not to trust someone. So stop making yourself worried and leave him. he is not worth it
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Stick to your word, it happened again.
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It’s apparent you don’t trust him, so why stay? Whether he’s on the up-and-up or not, you don’t believe that he is so are worrying yourself silly and invading his privacy to try to prove he’s a jerk.
Move on…and work on your trust issues or you will never be a partner worth having. Nobody want’s to put up with constant questioning and having to reassure you that they aren’t straying…
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In order to text these girls, he needs to have a number right? Where is he getting these numbers from? From them is a good guess. Does he give his # out to them?. He has called that girl also…. I hate to tell you but a pattern is starting and I would no longer trust him. Innocent flirting hurts people and you are getting hurt. Why does he feel the need to flirt? Lots of questions for you to answer to yourself and see just how much you want to still be with him.
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You are just being cautious and have every right to be since there are trust issues involved. Since he confessed straight up the first time without much prying he probably would not lie again and tell you the truth. But either way goes in this situation.
Innocent flirting is healthy for relationships- in his defense he is probably just not being flirted with you since it has been 5 years, try to go out and flirt with him the way you used to- I went through the same thing and my boyfriend and I still flirt with one another and other people too, it’s healthy and you should try it. But always, always-always tell the truth the other person that you have a boyfriend/girlfriend-if you don’t then that means it is time for a serious talk.
I would just sit him down and talk to him, tell him you don’t like what’s going on and it is hard for you to believe him since the first round of this. Ask him to put himself in your shoes.
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Well , you said if it happened again and it did…you know the answer.
You don’t trust him, and there is a good reason for that. He made you not trust him. He is flirting with other people and thats not acceptable in a relationship. MOVE on and find someone you can trust. There is one there for everyone.
Also…you have no trust issues…you just know (its a feeling) when not to trust someone. So stop making yourself worried and leave him. he is not worth it
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