So i’m 17 and my partner is 21, we live together and have an 11 month old daughter, and i’m 36 weeks pregnant with our second child. Our relationship has it’s ups and downs just like everyone else’s, but majority of the time our relationship is fantastic. My partner has always had a hard time trusting me though, i don’t know if he really believes that i have gone with someone else or that if he justs questions me to reassure himself that i wouldn’t do that. I have been loyal to him but he can’t help the way he is feeling. Is this something we can work on, will he learn to trust me ? it causes so many arguments and it’s so frustrating to know that if there was a way he could know that i only want him, there wouldn’t be any of these arguments. Also lately he’s been acting different, he’s been snappy, argumentative, when he does something for the baby he acts like he’s doing a chore rather than enjoying father daughter time with her like he used to, he’s completely different aswell when it comes to this pregnancy, there’s no emotion from him really, he seems unaffected by the fact we will be having another baby. We haven’t really been there for each other. I can’t understand why he is acting like this, i know he could be anxious because it won’t be long before we have another baby, or could it be that reality has hit him, and that things are going to get harder with two young children before they become easier,and that after thinking things through he’s decided this isn’t what he wants.
I know the only way i am going to find the answers to my questions is by asking him.
but i would really appreciate an outsiders advice.
Thanks for the first answer, Yes this is something i want for the rest of my life but only if we can work this out, i wouldn’t be stuck in a relationship that’s based on arguments and causes stress to the kids, me and him. My daughter and the baby on the way are obviously my priorities here. I do love him but i wouldn’t want my children to be brought up in an unhappy enviroment and i’m sure he wouldn’t either.
Just got to say thanks for all the answers, they were all great
Men always question whether or not she is cheating, I have been married for 18yrs and it is still a question that pops in my head from time to time.
I agree he may be questioning whether he is the right guy to take on the responsibility of two children. It is difficult at times. Get him to talk if he wont open up to you then seek help. I am sure he is talking to his friends(male and female) try to get them to talk to him and dont condem them. Know that men look at being a father differently than a woman. My children are my life, but I give them space to grow. He may need a little more personal time with you. Dont be afraid to be intimate with him, that doesnt mean just in bed either. the most intimate thing a couple can do is communicate with each other. You get in his head and let him in yours.